Note to self: I Am Enough

Note to self: I Am Enough

Two week guys, I  am so sorry I've been so busy and when it came to writing I just went into total melt down and couldn't think of anything. That's normal for beginners right? Haha. And then if things couldn't get worse! I was making final adjustments and completely deleted itself so I apologise in advance if there is a couple of mistakes.

Anyway, Friday evening I was having a conversation with a friend, he's been split up with his ex for a while now and he was explaining how he felt about not only the situation but himself and it broke my heart to listen to. I wouldn't say it was a rough break up but there is a lot of lose ends from what a can gather. He cant go a day with out thinking about her and (the biggest one of all)he always questions if she's happy. The more detail, the more it broke me as a person how rubbish he feels about himself is unbelievable and that's when it clicked. Self-worth.


The dictionary definition of self worth is: a feeling of confidence in yourself that you are a good and useful person. Its shocking how many people feel like they're nothing and feel as if they aren't worthy. So this post will more than likely apply to most of you, but never forget you're all amazing and unique in your own way.

There is something called the "COAL" attitude, which mean being Curious, Open, Accepting and Loving towards yourself. There is no such thing as the perfect person, remember that imperfection is a part of life that we all have in common and you have to learn to love them.

How to build your self worth!

Understand the power of your attitude:
How you perceive yourself, present yourself and talk about yourself can all have an affect on your self esteem. You must make little changes, such as walking that little bit taller and believing in yourself (even if its a little bit) and you'll feel better about yourself as the negativity will be eliminated.

Overcome the fear of Self-love:
Self-love is often frowned upon but that is purely because its misinterpreted. Self-love is not being full of yourself and cocky, self-love is simply treating yourself once in a while. Self-love is treating yourself with the same love, compassion and generosity as you would treat a loved one. 

Show others you matter:
You may find yourself taking back seat in your friendships due to low self-esteem. However this doesn't give them the right to walk all over you, show them you have a voice and you do have an opinion, don't let others over rule you because you're the quiet personality of the group. You are a person, you can make your own choices. Break the habit of trying to please others, say how you feel even if it may cause you to lose people you'll know where you stand, it may even show you who you do and don't need in your life.

Balance you're time correctly:
If you feel like you are the one putting all the effort into a relationship I hate to break it to you... you're probably right. Friendships don't work like that if that is the case don't continue to put all that effort in, it will become apparent that they don't care for you as much as you do for them. Focus on the people in your life that care as much for you as you do for them. They are the kind of people that will stick by your side regardless of the circumstances, they are friends for life.

And finally...

Live in the present:
Live for today, don't let your past or people drag you down. Grab hold of every opportunity with both hands. Because with every opportunity comes new adventures and that's when the new memories, happy memories, fill in the gaps. No one is perfect and you will make mistakes but instead of dwelling on them live through them, and learn from them.

I hope this can help you all! You are all amazing humans and you deserve to feel good about yourself!

Have a fab week!

A Leap, Skip And A Jump!xxxx